$.validator.addMethod( "dateNL", function( value, element ) { return this.optional( element ) || /^(0?[1-9]|[12]\d|3[01])[\.\/\-](0?[1-9]|1[012])[\.\/\-]([12]\d)?(\d\d)$/.test( value ); }, $.validator.messages.date );
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